Parenting has compelled me to do and say things I never imagined would be necessary. There was the “We don’t feed our sister dirt,” lesson, and then the “How well can you think on your feet?” challenge when my son got the mail and exclaimed with glee, “Look! Someone sent us some little pillows!” They were free samples of feminine products. No big deal.
Similarly, when the childless me dreamed of one day teaching my children about money, it didn’t seem like it was going to be all that complicated. “Spend less than you earn.” Bam! All I had to do was avoid raising a kid that onlookers describe as spoiled. It seemed that simple.
And then along came easy credit, advertising that targets kids, cashless spending, and a consumption-oriented society that results in most parents eventually hearing the phrase, “But (insert name of child’s friend) gets whatever THEY want!” How do we raise financially responsible children in today’s society?
Screen Time
A few years ago, my oldest posed a parenting challenge when I realized he didn’t really care about earning money. At first, I thought maybe he didn’t understand the concept of needs and wants. Apparently we were meeting all his needs so he didn’t have a reason to make independent purchases. Then I discovered – shocker! – he wasn’t keen on working for money unless I offered him a large sum.
After considering his outlook for a while, I realized I had to expand my definition of currency for him. It seemed if basic lessons on budgeting and earning/spending were going to be taught, I needed to deal with an asset he really cared about. You know what mattered to him? Screen time.
So I began managing his screen time, using it as the reward for work rather than an entitlement. Budgeting screen time resulted in some “A-HA” moments for my son:
He began managing this resource with more intention, so we moved on to the big Kahuna of resources, money. This time things were different because he had learned the basics with a currency he couldn’t afford to run out of.
Take a Pass
My daughter has a brilliant teacher who offered another alternative currency – Homework passes. She gave each student four passes for the semester. A child exchanges a homework pass, signed by a parent, for the privilege of not turning in a particular piece of homework. My first reaction to this new academic tool was befuddlement. How are these going to teach my kid to work hard at studies? I shrugged it off, assuming the teacher knew best.
The brilliance of the homework pass became evident the first time my daughter decided to use one. It was a normal day, no illness, no after school activities to make us short on time, no special friends over, she wasn’t even in a grumpy mood. She just “didn’t feel like doing that piece of homework.”
“Are you sure you don’t want to save that homework pass for a time when you really need it?” That statement reflects MY inner sense of scarcity, the one that results in finding a three year-old box of Sees Candy in my pantry because I was “saving it” for, I don’t know, a visit from the Queen? But thankfully, my daughter considered my suggestion and quickly dismissed it.
“No, I just don’t feel like doing that homework. I’m going to use the pass.”
That’s when I conceded to letting her learn the larger lesson; a homework pass is an alternate currency and will train a child just as well as money. Maybe, someday towards the end of the year, she will regret spending all her passes because she really needed one. Or, maybe she will end the year with a pass left over that she can use that last week of school, just because. Who knows? Either way, the lesson will be ALL HERS. And she will emerge financially wiser as a result.
So if you are having trouble with money lessons with young kids, consider dealing in an alternate currency to teach some basic principles. Your efforts will be effective as long as the asset is meaningful to the child as a reward and can be limited in quantity. Then, once the child is ready, you can start again with a financial allowance system that works.
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